A few months ago, I ordered a few things from E.L.F. because it’s cheap and cruelty free and actually mostly decent for the prices (think Wet & Wild/Rimmel quality).
Because of this, I was given a subscription to InStyle. Now, if you know me, you know I’m pretty broke (which is why I’m buying E.L.F. in the first place) and kind of particular about what I buy. Don’t get me wrong: I love clothes and fashion, but I know my style and what I like to wear (I would say about 90% of my wardrobe is purchased from YesStyle).
So I figured InStyle wasn’t really going apply to me. After all, I don’t really care about celebrity profiles or expensive clothes I can’t afford. But then I had a bad day and reading an issue in the tub with a glass of wine sounded like a wonderful idea.
And I was surprised at how much I liked it. I could see examples of trends in various ways (like, say, variations on the color mint, which is supposed to be so hot right now), or sunglasses with colored frames. It shows how to wear things like pleated skirts (which I’m probably not into) or offers up retro swimsuits for various body types.
I completely understand that fashion magazines can be damaging and aren’t based on reality. And honestly, a lot of this stuff is ridiculously priced and advertiser-driven (yeah, even if I had a ton of money, I’m not buying a $400 T-shirt). But I realized I can take away what I want and leave the rest. I can say “Those graphic prints look stupid and aren’t me but I already love metallics so I can do that in a new, cooler way.”
It’s cool if you’re not into fashion or trends or anything. I’m not telling you that you should be. But I think women who are interested in clothes get a lot of shit, like it’s somehow trivial.
But I never saw it like that. My mom was a dressmaker for 20 years and extremely stylish in a very unique way (she still is, and we still trade clothes sometimes!). For me, fashion is about expressing who I am and feeling good about it. It doesn’t feel at all incompatible with anything else about myself. It’s about having fun, too. Clothes should be a fun thing.
(And all the women I know are stylish and beautiful in their own ways. My style doesn’t have to be yours. In fact, it probably shouldn’t be. It should be yours.)
Wear whatever you want, whatever you’re comfortable wearing. And ultimately, I think that’s the point. It’s about who you are and not about who people are telling you to be.